There was a very popular rhetorical question some time ago that originated out of disunity: “Can’t we all just get along?” Why is getting along with others so difficult at times and why is it important? It is difficult because getting along challenges how we see things. Proverbs 15:22 states the following: “Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” We all need people around us to see things we do not. Most of our relationship issues are tied to a lack of communication and having a perspective that is not considerate of diverse viewpoints. It is important to be unified because it makes all parties stronger. For example, Ecclesiastes 4:12 states, “Though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him — a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Unity is important in three areas for us to be a stronger people. The first area is in the home, which is the foundation for every individual. For one to have a unified home, what is important must be established. Inhabitants of the home must establish that having peace is more valuable than confusion. Peace increases the chances for getting along in the home, but confusion is a deterrent because it negatively impacts our trust in one another. In our families, we can embrace the idea that it is not who is right, it is about what is right. “Who” is right is two people having an opinion and agreeing on what is best for each party. “What” is right is the best thing for both individuals and the family. Finally, know that emotions magnify and do not always reflect what is accurate. Commit to rating things in the home on a scale of 1 to 10. For example, a “10,” so to speak, is a 911 situation. A “1” situation, in the big scheme of things, is not as important beyond the moment. When we are overly emotional, we tend to make “10s” into “2s” and vice versa. When we do, emotions run amuck and unity can disappear.
When it comes to areas of unity, a second area of importance is in recognizing that people within the home make up the community. The community is only as strong as the families who live in it. What has greatly helped the Frisco community is the belief that it is a great place to live and the people here have committed to keeping it healthy. All of us have some interest in having a healthy body. The people of Frisco must not waver in doing their part in maintaining a vibrant and healthy community. Galatians 3:28-29 states, “I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them.” This is a strong passage and it speaks to anyone who may cause great division within the community. Unity means “together,” and that does not mean agreeing on everything. However, it does mean seeking a common ground and ensuring what is best for the community is the top priority. Division weakens like unity strengthens.
A third area of importance lies in unity in the church. There is no shortage of churches in Frisco. The church is made of people who live in a local community. It is important for the local church to be strong, and it starts with the unifying principle of love. That means demonstrating consistent and genuine love in and out of the local church. Love reduces selfishness, hate, outbursts of anger and constantly judging others. This includes minimizing things that will bring shame to the local church, since this impacts the home and the community. Amos 3:3 asks the following question: “Can two walk together, except they are agreed?” We need to pray that the Lord shows us how to love others whose styles and opinions may differ from our own. The church should not abandon what she believes, but teach love, patience and kindness to reflect the heart of God.
Despite how often we fall short as human beings, His heart is always open to a repentant sinner. If God’s heart is open, ours should be also, as this may be one of the greatest keys to having a unified church. Romans 12:18 says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” A unified church understands that peace, along with love, lays a foundation that will bless the families who, in turn, can bless the community.
One of the definitions of unity is “the quality or state of being made one.” For our schools, businesses, homes, churches and communities to thrive, we need unity! How can you do your part to ensure this is possible?